Keeping The Found: How To Start Off A Relationship

Posted: March 22, 2012 in Relationships

This week we are focusing on the theme, Keeping The Found – which means very well guarding that which you have identified and you really like, and we started off by looking at how tell that you like someone and i believe we have all benefited and as i always say we are only updating our databases on this subjects because i believe that everyone has some knowledge about the topics we discuss. Now today we are going to look at how to start a relationship and not only how to start but starting the relationship on the right foot, being right from the word go. Whenever you meet someone and it becomes apparent that there is a great deal of attraction on both side and the possibility exists that you may be embarking on a serious relationship, it’s important to start things off right, or you run the risk of developing destructive habits that can destroy the relationship over time. The following ten important tips on how to start a relationship off right can help to get a relationship established on a strong foundation that can help allow a relationship to grow into something that is healthy and good for both people involved.

1 – Honesty. This one tops every list of things that are important in a relationship. Whether you’re just starting out or have been together many years, honesty is the cornerstone of all good relationships. Therefore, it’s critically important that you start out any new relationship with total honesty. This includes the things you say and do, as well as the things you chose to omit or hide.

2 – Bluntness. If you are truly serious about starting a new relationship with someone, it’s important that you don’t try to sugarcoat anything in your past or that you feel about things. If you have a weird fetish, a pile of debt, a criminal record, or anything else that your hesitant about sharing, you need to come clean as soon as possible. Don’t be shy about not only who you are, but where you are in life and what you are looking for.

3 – Seriousness. The thing about new relationships is that they are fun and exciting times. It’s easy to forget that you may be embarking on something that could become quite serious. This is why it’s good to keep in mind whenever starting a new relationship that you do need to keep the seriousness of what you are doing in mind, so that you don’t make mistakes that could harm the relationship later on.

4 – Establishing boundaries. In any new relationship, it’s very important that you establish any boundaries that you may have. If there are things you won’t do in the bedroom, or things outside of it that you are afraid of, or rules of behavior that you require of a partner, you need to share these things and make sure that there are just certain boundaries that you will never tolerate being crossed.

5 – Setting a proper tone. It’s important that you set a proper tone for your relationship right from the beginning because it’s a difficult thing to change once you’ve been together for awhile. What this entails is how you speak with one another, respectfully hopefully, how you help each other or the things you do for one another. These are the things that will be with you for the duration of the relationship, so it would behoove you to make sure things don’t get started that you won’t care for later on.

6 – Establishing give and take. In every relationship there is give and take. One person gives here, another takes there. Whether it’s forms of affection, gifts, or doing things for one another that help maintain a bond. It’s important to lay the groundwork right from the get go because like many other things that go on, who gives what and who takes when will become the norm shortly after the relationship starts.

7 – Comparing goals. Another thing you should definitely do as the relationship begins is to compare goals with one another. You need to know where this other person wants to be in the future and likewise them for you. If there are clashes, such as the desire to have children, where you might want to one day live, or minimum monetary thresholds expected, it could lead to a lot of pain and heartache later on. It’s best to know in the beginning so that both parties can decide before things get to serious whether the relationship is worth pursuing.

8 – Testing your chemistry. Many times in first blushes of romance, people tend to overlook certain aspects of their chemistry together. If lust is the overriding gauge of chemistry in the beginning, it might be easy to overlook personal chemistry. Similarly the reverse might be true. At any rate, it’s a good idea to stop and analyze all aspects of chemistry before getting too far into the relationship, because otherwise it might become glaringly obvious later on when it will be far more difficult to deal with.

9 – Watching and learning. As your relationship develops, it’s good to sit back and watch this person that you are considering for a serious relationship. Take off the rose colored glasses for a bit and try to see them as someone might that doesn’t know them, or maybe perhaps as someone that has known them a lot longer than you have. See how you feel about the things you notice.

10 – Watching your rituals. Every relationship develops rituals over time. The longer a couple are together, the more that arise. The only problem is, sometimes these rituals are things that one or the other party don’t really like. Therefore it is critical that you nip them in the bud before they get established, otherwise you’ll be streaming up stream for the rest of your time together.

These ten important tips on how to start a relationship off right are for anyone, male or female who thinks they may be in the very beginning stages of a long romance.

If you are in such a position, I hope these tips help. Good luck.

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  1. MrYoungScholar says:

    Reblogged this on mryoungscholar and commented:
    Ten Ways to Start a Strong and Lasting Relationship

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